Fifty(50) Playful Dates to Keep the Novelty Alive in Your Relationship


A recent discussion in my Psychology of Close Relationships class probed the topic of how relationships transition from hot and heavy to more comfortable and emotionally intimate. As you can imagine, this isn’t always welcome news to an undergraduate and the discussion quickly turned to how to avoid this relationship rite of passage.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that this transition is totally normal and has to do with the diminishing amount of novelty and excitement in the relationship.1 One way to stave off this transition is by adding novelty back into your partnership. Researchers have examined this phenomenon from a self-expansion standpoint and claim that people have an innate drive to grow, learn, and expand.2,3 The introduction of a new partner necessarily allows for new experiences and opportunities. However, when the novelty of that partner begins to fade, the two of you could engage in new adventures together.

One particularly interesting finding is that couples who engage in “novel play” show increased relationship satisfaction.4,5,6 As you can imagine, my undergraduates had a number of suggestions when it came to “novel play.” I figured I’d share the G-rated date ideas with those of you looking to spice up your relationships.

It’s worth noting that not all play is considered equally beneficial for relationships. Activities that are more exciting lead to more positive outcomes than those that are just pleasant.7 So, enjoy, but be careful (particularly if, like me, you’ve passed the age where injuries heal quickly)!

  1. Go-cart racing
  2. Paintball
  3. Volunteer at an animal shelter to walk/play with puppies
  4. Rollercoaster rides
  5. Take a ghost tour
  6. White water rafting
  7. Skydiving
  8. Bubble soccer
  9. Aquajets
  10. Lasertag
  11. Bungee jumping
  12. Water park
  13. Go for a hike
  14. Take a dance class
  15. Trampoline park
  16. Ice skating
  17. Escape room
  18. Horseback riding
  19. Play hide-and-seek
  20. Rock climbing
  21. Arcade fun
  22. Have a snowball fight
  23. Workout together
  24. Drive a race car
  25. Cheer for your favorite team
  26. Habitat for Humanity build
  27. Karaoke
  28. Mud Run
  29. Pick fruit at a local orchard
  30. Flight lessons
  31. Clay shooting
  32. Zip lining
  33. Travel to a new destination
  34. Parasailing
  35. Plant a community garden
  36. Ride a bicycle built for two
  37. Putt-putt golfing
  38. Paddleboarding
  39. Watch a scary movie
  40. Go for a swim (perhaps with dolphins)
  41. Attend a concert
  42. Take a “pedal tour” of your town
  43. Scuba diving
  44. Tour a brewery/winery/distillery
  45. Play a sport (kickball, dodgeball, tennis)
  46. Corn maze
  47. Take a spin class
  48. Scavenger hunt
  49. Kayaking
  50. Tour an local attraction (art museum, botanical garden, aquarium, state park, butterfly garden)

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